You don’t have to preface anything with “I’m not antisemitic.” Just say what you’re going to say. If what you have to say relies on broad, harmful stereotypes or is blatantly untrue, declaring yourself to be warm-hearted and inclusive won’t make it so. So seriously, don’t bother.

I didn’t find what you wrote to be antisemitic in the least. I’m not sure I’m 100% on board with the idea that our society tolerates anti-Blackness but not antisemitic or anti-LGBTQ rhetoric. There might be some differences, but I don’t think the Oppression Olympics is a good use of my time or anyone else’s.

I do believe that our society gives a lot of grace to those who criticize their own group vs. those who use harsh, even violent language about a disenfranchised group that is not their own. As a white man, I’m not about to police Black rappers or any other Black person on the use of the n-word; that’s not my fight. When Jewish comedians poke fun at Jews, it’s not for me to goysplain antisemitism to them. As a gay man, I can say whatever I want about my own people and I will only accept criticism from inside the rainbow committee on my word choices. (I generally speak very highly of my tribe, but I reserve the right to criticize if need be.) Furthermore, I will call out my fellow queers if I think they’re hurting us — hello, Caitlyn Jenner, I would very much like a word.

I respect your call within your community to examine your words and behaviors for internalized oppression. It’s not an easy fight. But it’s not MY fight.